
Mostly my blogs and comments tend to be erm... direct at issues ! I usually spare neither my acquired deaf sector or the cultural one if I feel strongly about an issue, and charity plugs are guaranteed to push my buttons ! but recently I WAS shocked (Unusual for me !), in that one reply was:
"Your constant criticism of (Charity name omitted because I am NOT giving deaf charities a plug), is very negative, the, (See last declaration on charities!), do a lot of good works for the deaf (NO they don't that's the point, but do carry on...), and all this chipping away and whining at charities, is going to undermine our support. You should be a role model for younger deaf. While you are not an declared cultural deaf person, you ARE deaf, and should be leading by example, and put the positive aspects of deaf people, younger deaf can follow, not consistently negative ones."
No thanks, what am I a pop star or something ? a golf player ? I am not out to promote myself as any sort of role model. I learnt that lesson day one. It was a very curious response, for many many years, being even remotely linked to any deaf sector was a subject of some debate, now I 'might' be viewed as a 'role model' by default ? c'mon !
Is it my 'duty' to mind everything I say because deaf must ALWAYS be seen in a positive light ? i.e. passive and non-complaining ? When they are abused or deprived of support ? If there is any sort of 'attitude' the deaf can take from my blog, I would hope it is that, if you feel something is not right, then SAY SO. Complain, complain and complain again. Let the rest throw flowers and do "I'd like to teach the world to sing...
These people are doing deaf down of all kinds, I am not going to give them a round of applause.. nor be grateful for being patronised either, it's my right I am not going to beg for it. The internet has more than enough deaf people happily plugging positive deaf aspects, they don't need me as well, and anyway, I consider complaining about poor services, VERY POSITIVE for deaf. I suppose I could smile more while I am doing it, but it would lose effect...
Do I want a knighthood from the Queen, erm..... no ! The deaf community needs it's 'At the Rim-mer's', even its 'Ridor's' we may never achieve any sort of deaf recognitions, we will certainly NEVER be thanked for it, since no-one in the system likes to be told they are doing a bad job (especially charity), but hopefully I might raise enough fuss so the door is forced open for the more moderate deaf to build on, I get no thanks, I don't expect it.
The British way is, build you up, then knock you down as soon as you can, they hate success, and those who succeed, little wonder I get it in the neck lol.... while Americans worship success, the Brits do their level best to cut the ground under you. No wonder half our ancestors went west... The only thing I really fear or worry about is apathy.
I want to be a role model
for every deaf to be
To always be so positive
and never mean (That's me).
I'd thank them all so kindly
for their patronising cant
I'd grovel at their footfall
And never ever rant.
If I could be a role model
I'd get my hair done every day
Have nips and tucks
and make big bucks
And smile my life away..
Being deaf well,it aint fun
(That's what we shouldn't hear)
Should I celebrate and ruminate
not hearing ? Not a chance,
No bloody fear !
(That's it ?)....