Friday, 31 December 2010

The New Year Resolution Blog



Hell everyone else is wasting blog space doing it, why not me....?

(1) I promise to suffer bullies online even LESS than last year, (and bully them instead.).

(2) I will purchase an electron microscope in January and really really search for an meaningful British deaf site, there MUST be at least one out there, but it seems even google wasn't up to finding any... (or all the Brits are using ASL...).

(3) I will learn the British and American signing alphabets, 2011 I will learn A, 2012 B etc...and will do an definitive vblog to prove it when I master them both fully.

(4) I will try hard not to show interest at techno geeks (deaf, disabled or there for the fun of it), who constantly regail us all of the latest gizmo/download/ifiddle or application, guaranteed to make the deaf life easier, (mostly by keeping us all indooors, thus avoiding getting remotely upset by hearing idiots outside it).

(5) I will continue as with last year's resolution to keep avoiding anything resembling Twitter or Facebook, indeed anything that has 'social' tagged on the end of it, it's for drunken idiots only, and I'm tea-total.

(6) I will study Deafhood (Not the American Version, too much cholesterol), until my eyes bleed, in the remote and deeply earnest desire if I keep doing that long enough, some of it may actually make sense. And he did it without millions of monkeys trying to write it like Shakespeare too... he da man... even if he studied under a schizophrenic Hans Anderson..

(7) I'm going to worship the CI and the genetic advances as the saviours of the deaf community, let's face it, in 10 years there won't be any deaf without 3 ears, a micro implant, and tomato plant growing out their bum...and I don't want to be the only one without..

(8) I am going to set up a charity that opposes every other charity, and an anti-social deaf site (I know there's loads of competition but...), any and all funds raised, will then enable me to get as far away from these very annoying and negative beggars as possible...

(9) I am going to set up a facebook page and campaign to bring back Guido Fawkes, his services, we are all in dire need of, and he will need all the gunpowder he can get.....

(10) I promise to keep ignoring Australia, I've ignored it for 30 years so far, (Just thought I'd add that on, and why not anyway, if its that great why can't they play cricket....?).

The Sign of the Tiger



I was reading this online recently,a sad fact of deaf life that bullying is as much a part of the deaf child's lifestyle as it is with hearing, the deaf bullies start at school day one.

Quote: "When a deaf student bullies another using sign language, one insult hits deepest: the one meaning "you're worthless, you're nothing." The phrase is expressed in sign by wiggling both hands at hip level with index fingers and thumbs forming a circle, the other fingers outstretched. Teachers at the Mill Neck Manor School for the Deaf in Nassau County know to look out for it. Last year, they began to notice students reacting oddly to the sign for tiger - a sweeping gesture of the fingers from nose to forehead. Students looked hurt as if they'd been told they were worthless. In fact, they had - the sign for tiger had become the code word for the insult.

"The kids knew if they were caught bullying, they could get suspended or another consequence," said Principal Kathleen Kerzner, who students call Miss Katie. "Even though we got really good at catching the bully, it wasn't changing the behavior. The kids just changed the signs and gave them new meanings." Bullying is a harsh fact of school life, whether in a large socially-stratified high school or here, in a small, supportive school for deaf and hearing-impaired students. Studies show students with disabilities are at higher risk for being bullied and some may also be at risk to become bullies. Administrators have recognized the need to create schoolwide cultures where bullying no longer flourishes.
"Bullying has been going on forever," Kerzner said. "Everything that goes on in any other school goes on here."




You're Out ?

But let's not stop there, but turn our attentions to facebook, Twitter, deaf message boards, and other deaf areas, where bullies still rule as adults, and at our blogs, as many will testify, can we any longer blame hearing as main culprits ? hasn't online access provided just as much bully fodder as any closed deaf environment does ? It starts as a like-minded/lifestyle grouping, then transforms to a clique with a pecking order, then to its real status as a 'leader-led' group with sycophants that determine who is 'in' or who is 'out' of the group, conform, or face the slow ostracisation process of being left out, or even banned, kicked out, persona non grata, because you disagreed with the heirachy they established.

Suicide is an alarming reaction to this with vulnerable youth. The advantage of online socialising and groupings is those that run popular sites can determine what goes in, and what doesn't to an ultimate degree, so forget about any democracy existing, free speech is only what they allow you to say.....the moderators/owners also have the ultimate power to abuse, and a number are doing it, altering comments/postings, complaints against British sites have increased alarmingly, but still unable to address because of the secrecy of the anon, and 'gang' mentality that closes ranks.

Moderators on some sites were accused of withdrawing posts, changing the actual texts, and changing the nature topics to eliminate opponents of this very unequal status quo. The ultimate weapon is of course an outright ban....We know too Twitter and Facebook are irresponsible sites that won't address bullying, and allows attacks on our armed forces, encourages paedo's to continue, and in part promotes terrorism too. It's a bullies and groomers paradise.

The disadvantage of online socialising for the deaf is they can be abused from any continent in the world now, and by their own sector as well as anyone else. ID the bullies, expose them, deaf or otherwise. Beware of 'dedicated' sites, this does NOT mean you can join, contribute or take part unless you conform. Today I read a student responding to a facebook topic, he/she said "I had to join facebook, or be left out of things...everyone else is there,, and I am on my own unless I join.." Who would have thought youth the champions against conformity were too scared not to ?

Peer pressure, is one step from outright bullying. How sad our deaf children are already in to that... Last Word....

Tuesday, 28 December 2010

The end of UK deaf petitioning...online.



The Government is pressing ahead with plans to allow petitions attracting significant voter support to be debated in Parliament - with those attracting the most signatures even translated into Bills. The catch ? The guarantee of a formal debate for any petition needs to secure 100,000 or more signatures at least !

This means the UK deaf community needs another 20 to 30,000 deaf people and to get them ALL to sign a petition before it will even be looked at. I always said petitioning on-line was a waste of time, and even when an Minister quoted "No-one reads them..." it didn't sink in to many. Can the UK deaf NOW get back to what they do best ? organise and march for their rights ? and for God's sake get OFF social sites which Brian Lamb OBE (ex RNID), said contributed next to nothing in advancing real causes, deaf or other...

Friday, 24 December 2010

Thursdays' Children.



From the archives.....Academy Award winning short documentary from 1954, about The Royal School for the Deaf in Margate, Kent (UK). Narrated by Richard Burton.

Wednesday, 22 December 2010

Fings aint what they used to be or ever were....



From the home of Britains Deaf studies, where deafhood, genetics, and deaf history is being researched, and Paddy Ladd is worshipped. Bristol (England), was found to be the least accessible city in the UK for deaf people... Perhaps less tome writing more lobbying ? Not much point in deafhood if the only place deaf are welcome is at the University.... and the local deaf school is being shut down ?. Deaf fiddling while culture burns ?

Saturday, 18 December 2010

Mainstream aint all bad....



YOUNG Luke Champney was born profoundly deaf – but it certainly hasn't got in the way of enjoying Christmas carols this year. Staff and pupils at Wimborne Juniors have gone the extra mile to set up a special 35-strong choir where youngsters (Video Link), sign along to recorded music. And this year's unorthodox carol service for parents was such a hit, the school arranged a second performance for hundreds of pupils to enjoy and sign along to.

Carina Jacobs, headteacher at the Southsea school, said: 'The concert was amazing and it was great to see Luke smiling and enjoying himself. 'I realise it must have been quite hard for everyone as the music was quite fast, but they all did an incredible job. 'I'm so proud of our children and also the dedicated staff who have made this possible for Luke. There is a real willingness to communicate with Luke and to learn his language so he can be involved in every aspect of school life.'

Click on 'read the full article' to see video.

Friday, 17 December 2010

Deaf.Read Blogs of the year

Blogs I have l read this year.... without falling asleep..

(1) Kokonut Pundits. Tells it how it is, informative, contentional but so very accurate...

(2) The Holism. Ditto, and the scenery looks good as well.... (what is it with deaf people and beards ?).

(3) Candy. Feisty and an intelligent lady, (But the cheque bounced you sent me... and no-on here has heard of American Express).

(4) Don G's deafhood discourses. I can't fault the man's beliefs, obscure as they are...or his total inability to see Paddy Ladd is just another fictionalist with a beard. Car crash blogging... but at least no-one gets killed...

(5) Smoke signals (UK). Home from Home (1) No matter how I wind them up they nod sagely and tolerate me (either that or there really is no-one home, and I've been talking to myself for 3 years...)...

(6) Deaf Village (UK). Home from Home (2), friends, Brits, deafies, and the 27 others categorised, lend me the ears that are still functional, and when are they going to buy a round ?

(7) The Regency Blog. One of the few UK bloggers dedicated to rights and the realities. Like to see more of him coming forward... Read and learn.

(8) Kalalau's Korner. A legend in his own time. He's a brilliant Paddy Ladd clone, I think, (i.e. until I can follow ASL, decide differently, and get dissolutioned).

(9) Space vacant, still waiting for a British blog that isn't obsessed with twitter, facebook, or icrap, and possesses a door, a view or a window to the world outside. It's like living in Ontario..

(10) This space Vacant too, for ANY British blog that can match the Americans....

I'd list the 10 WORST blogs, and could have named 23 but there would have been none at all boosting the deaf Brit images, 19 were unutterly boring, and I didn't want to be seen as a killjoy... (or to be ID'd as reading any of them), the other 4 I wind up when I get bored... or seeking intelligent deaf life here...

The other one is by an imported native American but he lives in the White House, and I didn't want a cruise missile up my backside....... this one KNOWS where the UK is... I'm not daft.

Deaf Blind woman raise money for charity..

A DEAF and blind young woman has raised £100 for charity from making and selling her own greetings cards. Deborah Naylor, 29, from Bontnewydd, lost her eyesight at the age of 13 due to a generic condition, and has been extremely hard of hearing since she was seven. Nine months ago, in order to show her appreciation to the people who have provided her with her ‘eyes to the world’, she decided she wanted to help out the Gwynedd Guide Dogs Association.

She said: "They have been so good to me, and I know the costs involved with training and getting the dogs ready. "So I thought it was only right that I could help them in some way, and decided to start making and selling greeting cards." Deborah started designing back in April, and has so far sold £100 worth of birthday and Christmas cards to family and friends.
"I’ve only been making them for a few months, but am amazed with how much we’ve raised in that short space of time.

"I’d like to thank everyone who’s supported me in buying them, in aid of such an important cause. "I’d be lost without them really." Irfon Thomas, from the Gwynedd Guide Dogs Association, said: "We are very thankful to Deborah for all her hard work over the past few months. "It usually costs £5,000 to train a dog from a puppy, into a viable guide dog, and that process usually takes at least a year. "So we are extremely thankful for any donations to help keep us running." Deborah wears a red and white band when out and about, to help identify her as being blind and deaf, and Agi has been a great companion for her since joining her last April.

Her mother, Maureen Naylor said: "Agi has been with her for around nine months now, and has been great. "Not every dog is compatible with its owner, but in our case, we’ve been very lucky to have such a great dog. "Gwynedd Guide Dogs have been so good to us as they pay for everything, from their training to their six month checkups and feeding them.
"People have been so kind in helping Deborah live as normal a life as she can, and she loves Agi to bits. Agi is such a well behaved dog. "By now, she’s her eyes to the world, and we can’t thank Irfon and other members of Gwynedd Guide Dogs for all of their help."

Tuesday, 14 December 2010

No Way Mr Bunger.....



Obviously an anti-integration supporter, and a view from the 'other side'. Michael Bunjer said on December 13, 2010 at 12:18 pm......

MM

Who is part of the Deaf Community, it’s Deaf people, not hearing parents. 90-95 % of the parents will be hearing, and a deaf child will be born. Who decides for the child would be the parents, and what do they know. It is best to listen to the Deaf community, who went through it all.

Response: "No they aren't, they have no unity, are isolationist, and their view is from unsuccessful inclusion, or bad teaching, or, no support. Mainly the disaffected are unwilling to campaign for real access, the UK cannot do that, there are no longer and new schools to go to for the deaf and few teachers to run another few dozen. NO I'm in the deaf community and NOT gone through it all, but I've had the same issues as other deaf people, but with NO support at all, it is rubbish to suggest the deaf child get none, it is not ENOUGH I'd agree..

I think it astounding you are suggesting parents should be ignored regarding their children and total strangers with a huge axe to grind and far from neutral should decide instead. Deaf schools consistently FAIL to meet academic standards, even Gallaudet fails... I suppose you blame hearing students for talking. As I declared via another comment, we know people like yourself are NOT Interested in academics, but parents are, and deaf children deserve to be able to be educated to match hearing you would deny them ? who says deaf children HAVE to have deaf culture ? YOU ?"


Have you asked a Deaf Parent of a Deaf Child? Am Deaf from the States, and was a day student, and went to 2 State Schools for the Deaf. Loved it! Around 80-90% of the kids were staying in the Dorms, while I was communting between home and school. I loved it, especially staying after school. Talk about Least Restrictive Environment, LRE.. Even after school activities, also sports. In mainstream programs, many Deaf aren’t involved extracurricular activities and sports.

Response: " Again no-one challenges that statement, what I challenge is that you are defeatist, and just want, instead of pushing for access to the things the deaf child is denied, you want to withdraw them entirely, to some cosy deaf lifestyle that doesn't exist except in a city.. you ignore the demographics...and are illogical, you need numbers for it to work, You suggest an elite in the city is OK so long as those deaf children outside go without, a tiered form of cultural access, available to the few ? How is that different ? "

Socially as a kid among peers is cruical for social skills, other than education etc. For education, I was pretty disappointed tho, because I was a top student in my classes, and expectations were not met for my educational needs, or to my level, but for my peers. They struggle academically, is only because not all the teachers knew ASL. They knew only the other modes of commuication, such as SEE, Total Communication and so on. If oralism was in play or AVT, Cued SPeech and so on, would even be worse. It would be much more a nightmare for me and my other peers, a bad dream in other words, for any deaf child to through. We suffered enough!

Response: "I don't need reminding of this, I went from 1st in class to last in one term when I went deaf, and suffered for 35 years afterwards, I don't carry grudges all my life, or I'd never be able to move on. You can't change the past only the future, and only that for a short time. The way deaf are taught is down to isolated communication approaches (My view), I see no issue with oral tuition, sign tuition, lip-reading, cued speech, whatever, so long as they are used TOGETHER, I don't want deaf children ghettoised by language mode or adult deaf preference. Other modes are assists to communication, NOT instead of, as you suggest."

My favorite teachers were those who that used ASL fluently, because of the 2 way communication. Nothing can beat that! If I was to choose LRE or a mainstream program, I would choose to be in an LRE classroom. We just need better educators that specialize in BI-BI education and fluent in ASL. For your country, it would be BSL. Deaf Community knows best, not the Hearing Community. Deaf Culture is all about Linguistics, and Culture. Not Language Genocide, and Cultural Genocide. You advocate Ethnocide as well, so respect the Deaf Community and their Language, the Cultural Heritage or get lost!

Response: "I think you are getting over heated frankly, you are suggesting similar to 'faith' school education, and we know the huge issues we all have with those. No-one is suggesting any of the things you said, least of all myself."

Hearing people, or even hearing parents do not represent the Deaf Community. They are oppressors, and audists, abusing our needs based on their selfish views, and even greed. AGBell and the International Congress of Educators for the Deaf is not God sent, but sent by the Devil himself! Deaf community dont have monetary gains but gains in the community through cultural and language. Education and the Deaf Community do have close ties, and hell with your Segregation bull crap too."

Response: "There is no A G Bell here in the UK. Your view is bordering on hatred for hearing people, even hate against parents of deaf children, do you honestly think a single representative body is going to align with that ? What it will certainly do is convince parents who are 50-50 to go 100-1 against people like yourself who claim to be in deaf culture, "Are all cultural deaf like him ? I don't want my child growing up like that.." be careful what you advocate. NO state is going to take away parental rights and hand them over to you or people like you. No-one will back an extremist, although I am tempted to think you have just had a bad time and globalising that experience to every one of us.. and you don't have that right."

Wednesday, 8 December 2010

The Mask of Culturalism...



The 'born again' deaf, these psuedo deaf who have hearing loss but still manage to hear most things with an hearing aid, they are destroying the deaf cultural concept, in their determined aim to be top dog in the deaf world, as we know the one-eyed man in the kingdom of the blind is King over all, so it is with 'deaf' who can hear, which to my mind is a complete conundrum. We must get away from the deaf by decibel arguments, to determine at least who is cultural and who has hearing loss, and who aspires to culture after a lifetime of hearing taking zilch part in it except when it suits, they are for the most part the most vociferous in SUPPORT of culture, whilst hiding their own agendas.

My blogs are committed to supporting the deafened and those with severe loss, and over the years I have read many sites for the deaf, read thousands of comments and responses, and there is an overall image most of the movers and shakers online are NOT the cultural deaf at all, who, if they truly exist today, and I have increasing doubts, are simply being sidelined out of it. I read sites where 6 out of 10 contributors clearly, have little hearing loss at all in real terms, that is not decrying that loss provides issues for them, far from it, but they aren't DEAF in any profound sense, and can barely spell culture let alone understand what it means in deaf terms.

In the area of true support, interpreting has really suffered in the UK, the 1 for every 300 deaf ratio is now the norm in most major areas. Many bemoan the fact, complain, rattle their sabres, then retire to doing nothing much because they lost any influence or control over their support years ago. Bad teaching of sign, intransigence of teachers, hearing students, inflexibility of communication modes, biased assessments, so learners have little chance of qualifying unless they can get past the farce of the regional judging, where local deafies lord it over learners and will turn you down if they don't like your style, or, they can't follow themselves the 'new' BSL. Only learners with a hefty bank account will have any edge.

The system that is legally obliged to provide signed and other support, is facing lottery figure fees for terps to turn up, the terps pick and choose which they will do for the best prices, and, they are free-lance too, so unregulated as are tutors of BSL mostly. What is happening, is the system in order to save costs, turn to bad charity and others who have stated providing second-rate signed help is perfectly acceptable, so instead of a fully trained BSL terp to stage 4 and beyond, amateurs at beginner level of Stage1/2 are now deemed acceptable, many have never set foot in the deaf area at all.

As pointed out, this rubbishes sign language, and probably does zilch for culture at all, because the standards are so poor. Increasingly the catch 22 of expensive trained help barely available, and the flood of amateurs who can 'sign a bit' but, can hear, has flooded the UK support areas.

These amateurs, suit the 'psuedo' cultural deaf, those who can hear a significant amount anyway, and can benefit literally and financially , by the system accepting they are deaf and cultural too, when clearly there are deaf who fit the image, who are nothing at all like them, and use differing systems altogether. These false deaf wearing the mask of culture, are also coining it with 'deaf awareness' employment, again, promoting an image even those that hear most things are quite profoundly deaf and attend a deaf club 3 times a week. If they have no suitable systems for themselves then campaign for them.

My view is unchanged the hard core deaf are reluctant to enter the real hearing world, but it is clear unless we support their argument they are being sold as a commodity by vested not so deaf interests, it will be hard to encourage them to move on, the enemy is within not without. I'm not supporting a stand-alone 'Deaf' area, but unless we truly empower deaf people, and clarify real system support and need, that's all that is going to happen. Will the real cultural deaf please stand up, and police their own areas ? Identify those that promote culture, but want no real part of it. Then we can all address where the problems lie... Most deaf alluding to culture online in UK sites are not cultural at all, even from my window on the cultural world, I feel I can spot a cultural deaf person now, and most here, aren't.

It seems clear the root of most dissent is in the supportive areas, less than profound deaf and non-cultural deaf are being forced by lack of targeted and suitable support services, to assume the role of being cultural deaf to get help, however being unable to become cultural deaf by default, are then altering systems to suit. This has allowed some in those areas to exploit for personal ego, or plain envy, or just to stir things ! to convince the system to accept themselves as some cultural authority, and while paying 'lip-service' to deaf culture, but clearly have other ideas.

I think I'll remain at the rim....

Tuesday, 7 December 2010

Privilege and Nonsense...



"In the attempt to do away with discrimination and oppression, minority groups
have risen together to create special places where they can experience the same equalities
as those who oppress them."

Damned in the first sentence... Surely if you create stand alone areas you are BOWING to the discrimination and oppression, and just stating, ya-boo-sucks, we can do that too... which is not the reaction of an adult or anyone who wants to address these issues. You could live on a desert island and do the same thing but would you be (A) Addressing oppression ? or (B) Advancing your own culture ? or even (C) attaining that fabled and privileged independence ?

I've always admired the determined drive by Americans to prove class and privilege is not an American thing, America was created so they are all presumably equal, well, they fooled themselves for quite a while didn't they ! How can you achieve equality by creating isolation wards ? I can't see Russia from my window, so I suppose it doesn't exist... Privilege by definition suggests an elite, ah, now we are getting to it... Some areas of the UK suggest the USA is the largest Island in the world now, becoming very insular. In many respects already pulled up the drawbridge.

If you can't stand the heat build your own kitchen.... "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal.." Quite right but some are always more equal than others, that is a self evident truth based on the reality too. They will be telling us next the government is by and for all the people...... and not that it depends on how many millions of dollars can be put in place to elect the 'right' person, by vested interests or commerce..

We have a coalition here whom no majority voted for, yet they are running the country. If deaf people cannot hack integration, with hearing people, fess up and stop the blame culture.... I'm deaf, but I can hardly blame someone just because they can hear... Gallaudet was a mistake and anti-hearing system not a pro-deaf one. The idea was more idealistic than anything, and the issue of majority deaf all in one place was bound to re-create the divide, then enhance and validate it as a right, if hearing mix with hearing why can't deaf mix with deaf ?

Breaking news is, they ALWAYS did it that way, access and equality means we now work and live with each other, not rocket science, and you won't achieve that by re-creating the very worst aspects of British culture, the class/caste system, or creating a parallel cultural approach that treats equality with 'lip-service', while doing their own thing. Brits dumped multiculturalism when we realised what was really happening.

Why are we lobbying mainstream ? we need to be seen as oppressed ? To suggest we are wanting access ? or just to determine access to suit ourselves and no-one else... erm.. that's how it starts... look to south africa and learn.

Monday, 6 December 2010

Songs for swinging deafies....



Gotta be an UK number 1.... Good to see they didn't clutter the screen up with signing and captions... or even sound....

Sunday, 5 December 2010

Why do you keep fighting ?



I'm often asked this, (when I am not avoiding personal attack and ridicule !), why do you keep on and on about aspects of deaf and hearing ? I responded in part recently via this comment,which was in response to a poster who felt with hearing loss he was too exhausted to fight and felt guilty taking the easier way of letting others do that.

"Most take the path of least resistance and thus less stress. I wouldn't expect everyone to fight daily, it is showing support for those that do, that can be your strength via unity, and also adding numbers. When you are up against the wall the last thing you might want to do is persist in fighting everything, your communication is poor, you are more than likely very isolated as well and struggling to come to terms with things. I was forced to fight, there was no other option available. I feel bound to object if I don't agree with something.

Deaf went one way, hearing another, and the HoH were to all intents and purposes hearing anyway or determined to hang on so long as a decibel was available. No-one wanted confrontations about rights and access, happy to let charities or whoever take that role, those that did campaign had no unity of purpose, they wanted it piecemeal and for their own little corner, I felt (Personally), no-one was seeing the bigger picture and it was a recipe for maintaining not culture, but divisions between those with hearing loss and those without.

Even those who purported to support integration via mixing hearing with deaf, failed to see what was really the fact of it, in that at the end of each 'integration session' each retired to their own corner again. A deaf school, a hearing school a 'half way house' where deaf are trotted out twice a day to integrate, then returned to their 'special need annex', is not what I am about. ...Worse they lobby for the right to do it. I couldn't equate where the big picture was ever going to be seen let alone addressed.

To protect the welsh language we created an elite in part, to deliberately exclude those who didn't want to use the welsh language, mocked the welsh culture, the welsh responded by creating these 'elite' systems, it was believed we could protect and maintain the language and culture this way, we have done well in certain respects, but the situation is that less than 2% of the entire population now support or speak the language, I was hoping sign using deaf learnt the lesson and didn't wait 400 years to find that out. Technology today means you haven't 400 years or even 40.

I come from Rhondda (Coal miner), stock. My father was an union convenor for many years, I had a upbringing of not being afraid to stand up, and paying for my own mistakes. Those loud people in the restaurants, complaining about poor service and food, were my parents probably ! Things like deafhood, 'deaf spaces' are poor attempts to establish these elite systems, or sign only environments and 'deaf education.' None of these things are going to do much but maintain the divisions between deaf and hearing people.

Either you want in, or you don't, you can't pick and choose, it doesn't work that way. Respecting a cultural difference doesn't mean you have to stand apart to maintain who you are. You have to believe in what you are, and can go anywhere and not feel threatened by everything, it's confidence deaf need, and belief. If you cannot cope then there must be a reason for that, and an attempt to help by setting up real systems that address real issues is the only way ahead. That means working with hearing and other deaf people, and getting on with it. I'd love to become redundant, but there seems a few lifetime's work yet to be done, until people understand what real equality and integration means."


Welsh Version.

Rwy'n gofyn yn aml hyn, (pan nad wyf yn osgoi ymosod personol a gwawd!), Pam yr ydych yn dal ymlaen ac ymlaen am agweddau ar byddar a clyw? Rwy'n ymateb yn rhannol yn ddiweddar drwy gyfrwng y sylw hwn, a oedd mewn ymateb i poster oedd yn teimlo sy'n drwm eu clyw blino'n lân ei fod yn rhy i ymladd ac yn teimlo yn euog cymryd y ffordd haws o siomi pobl eraill yn gwneud hynny.

"Mae'r rhan fwyaf yn cymryd y llwybr gwrthiant lleiaf a straen felly llai. Ni fyddwn yn disgwyl i bawb i ymladd bob dydd, mae'n dangos cefnogaeth ar gyfer rhai sy'n gwneud hynny, gall hynny fod yn eich nerth trwy undod, a hefyd yn ychwanegu rhifau. Pan fyddwch yn cystadlu yn erbyn y wal y peth olaf ch cadernid angen at gwna ydy barhau ym mhopeth ymladd, eich cyfathrebu yn wael, rydych yn fwy na thebyg yn ynysig yn dda ac yn cael trafferth i ddod i delerau â phethau. Roeddwn yn gorfodi i ymladd, nid oedd unrhyw ddewis arall sydd ar gael. Rwy'n teimlo rhwymo i wrthwynebu os nad wyf yn cytuno â rhywbeth.

Byddar aeth un ffordd, gwrandawiad arall, ac roedd y HoH i bob pwrpas beth bynnag eu clyw neu benderfynol o ddal gafael ar yr amod bod y desibel ar gael. Nid oes unrhyw un eisiau gwrthdaro am hawliau a mynediad, yn hapus i adael i elusennau neu bwy bynnag sy'n cymryd y rôl honno, y rhai a wnaeth ymgyrch oedd undod pwrpas, yr oeddent am ei dameidiog ac am eu hunain cornel fach, yr wyf yn teimlo (Bersonol), does neb oedd gweld y darlun mawr ac roedd yn rysáit ar gyfer cynnal nid diwylliant, ond rhaniadau rhwng y rhai sy'n drwm eu clyw a'r rheiny heb.

Hyd yn oed y rhai sy'n honni i gefnogi integreiddio drwy wrandawiad cymysgu gyda fyddar, wedi methu i weld beth oedd yn y ffaith ei ohono, yn hynny ar ddiwedd y 'sesiwn integreiddio' bob bob ymddeol ar eu cornel hunain eto. Mae ysgol byddar, ysgol gwrandawiad o 'ty hanner ffordd' lle y byddar yn trotted allan ddwywaith y dydd i integreiddio, dychwelyd at eu 'atodiad angen arbennig', nid yr hyn yr wyf yn ei gylch. ... Gwaeth maent yn lobïo am yr hawl i wneud hynny. Ni allwn cyfateb lle y darlun mawr oedd byth yn mynd i gael eu gweld heb sôn am sylw.

Er mwyn gwarchod yr iaith Gymraeg rydym yn creu elite yn rhannol, i yn fwriadol yn eithrio rhai nad oedd am ddefnyddio'r iaith Gymraeg, mocked y diwylliant Cymreig, y Gymraeg ymateb drwy greu systemau hyn yn 'elitaidd', yr oedd yn credu y gallem gwarchod a cynnal yr iaith a diwylliant y modd hwn, rydym wedi gwneud yn dda mewn rhai ffyrdd, ond mae'r sefyllfa yw bod llai na 2% o'r boblogaeth gyfan yn awr cefnogaeth neu siarad yr iaith, yr oeddwn yn gobeithio arwyddo gan ddefnyddio ddysgwyd fyddar y wers ac nid oedd yn aros 400 mlynedd i ddod o hyd hynny. Technoleg heddiw yn golygu nad ydych wedi 400 mlynedd neu hyd yn oed 40.

Rwy'n dod o Rhondda (Glo glöwr), stoc. Roedd fy nhad yn gynullydd undeb am nifer o flynyddoedd, roedd gen i fagwraeth o beidio â bod ofn i sefyll i fyny, a thalu am fy hun camgymeriadau. Mae'r rhai pobl yn uchel yn y bwytai, cwyno am wasanaeth gwael a bwyd, roedd fy rhieni yn ôl pob tebyg! Pethau fel deafhood, 'mannau byddar' yn wael ymdrechion i sefydlu systemau hyn elitaidd, neu arwydd yn unig ac amgylcheddau 'addysg byddar.' Nid yw'r un o'r pethau hyn yn mynd i wneud llawer, ond cynnal y rhaniadau rhwng pobl fyddar a chlywed.

Naill ai ydych am i mewn, neu os nad ydych, ni allwch ddewis a dethol, nid yw'n gweithio y ffordd honno. Nid yw Parchu gwahaniaeth diwylliannol yn golygu yn rhaid i chi sefyll ar wahân i gynnal pwy ydych chi. Mae'n rhaid i chi gredu yn yr hyn yr ydych yn, ac yn gallu mynd i unrhyw le ac nid yn teimlo dan fygythiad gan popeth, mae angen hyder fyddar, a chred. Os nad ydych yn gallu ymdopi, yna rhaid cael rheswm am hynny, ac yn ymgais i helpu drwy sefydlu systemau gwirioneddol sy'n mynd i'r afael â materion go iawn yw'r unig ffordd ymlaen. Mae hynny'n golygu gweithio gyda eu clyw a phobl fyddar eraill, ac yn bwrw ymlaen ag ef. Byddwn wrth fy modd i fod yn segur, ond mae'n ymddangos gwaith ychydig oes's eto i'w wneud, hyd nes y mae pobl yn deall yr hyn cydraddoldeb go iawn ac yn golygu integreiddio. "

Saturday, 4 December 2010

Parental Alienation Law & the deaf child.



The UK is soon to set up a system of 'checks' on parents of children under 5 to ascertain if they are being brought up happy and supported properly. How does this impact, with the law on parental alienation ? E.G. concern when children are different from their parents e.g. deaf children, hearing parents ? Given 9 out of 10 parents of the deaf child aren't themselves, can parents be taken to court for not wanting them taught sign language or to enter the deaf community ? or a parent demanding they do, whilst the other opposes ?

Part of the parental alienation law states: "Best Interests of the Child - Keep in mind that what you believe is in the best interests of your children will not always be what a judge believes is in their best interests."

Currently, this firmly explains what the deaf community itself thinks is irrelevant. While the parental alienation law is designed to address parental rights mainly at divorce, can it be applied to enable the deaf child ? In the case of both parents still refusing to allow a deaf child to attend deaf cultural aspects, or the parent with full parental rights opposing the wishes of the other who does, who can speak for the deaf child ? Or even both parents refusing to accept deaf children need deaf access to deaf peers ? or their communication means ?

It would appear if a child is under 5yrs old, the judge makes no ruling except in regards to who has custody.... Should we allow representatives of deaf culture to provide input to the courts ? or, ban them from so doing ?

Parental Alienation Law definition ?

Wednesday, 1 December 2010

Why lip-reading and Sign, isn't working...



I think there is a very real problem for those that acquire a deafness, and a very real need for an end to ya boo communication choices, lip-reading or sign ? sign or lip-reading ? that is accommodating people ? I don't think so. Instead of 'one size fits all', 2 does ? Neither mode is near effective enough, as they are taught at present. We do need an end to this mode or that mode being taught in isolation for acquired 'late-deafened' people, it's NO use at all and very biased, notwithstanding it is depriving the MOST needy deaf people of the help they need.

'Lip reading is hard to learn', yes it is, mostly because those that need to start as early as possible start too late. Instead of finding ways and means to make communication easier to learn, you are faced with a stark and biased lifestyle choice instead and two very different means of following things. I'm constantly surprised at Acquired deaf NOT raising this issue enough, perhaps they haven't the communication to do it except in print, where nobody takes any notice. We know the 'hard of hearing' are happy enough so long as the amplified fone or loop is about.

They all come a cropper when their hearing goes and they find they should have prepared properly. It's a well known fact most who go deaf after a long or even shorter period, do not seek communication options until either the aid stops working or their hearing goes completely. Indeed we are told 3 million Brits WITH already known hearing loss issues aren't even wearing an aid..... and approaching 24% of our young people already showing signs of acute hearing loss.... we'll have a sector for them in 20 years, the 'ideaf'. We have to address lip-reading and BSL being taught in isolation as stand-alone modes, it will encourage the born deaf to widen their options, maybe spread sign a bit more too.

Lip-reading tuition is still in the dark ages really and encouraging technology instead of people skills. Technology is great, until the battery goes..... mostly its communication by proxy, and remote, we are becoming more isolated, but, it is acceptable because of the way socialising is changing. This makes things difficult for the majority who need skills, who are mostly older people who find learning new things hard. Support must include trauma help and counselling support options too, the UK does nothing but leave you to it.


First, to examine the 78% failure rate of lip-reading students, (Any other mode taught with that statistic would be deemed pointless), and the teachers are determined to NOT go online and offer free services, even to those that need them. Second to investigate the greed of BSL tutors and examiners who are charging excessive fees so potential interpreters cannot afford to qualify, and the deaf to sort out what signs they are actually using as a norm, it's a farce at present with anything goes if it works sort of thing. A sign norm is a must.

The state should be providing free online lessons for those that need them, free sign lessons for them too, but ideally a merging online of BOTH systems to get the best of each. It is criminal to actually charge those who are going deaf to learn skills to live and work, and a state overseeing of the systems will ensure the bias is removed from both modes too.

We know lip-reading classes are virtually zero in many UK areas, but it is not just lack of tutors, but a view they don't work for acquired deaf at all, and designed for hearing people, (Who pay the fees), greed has replaced need. Anyone who wants to work with vulnerable deaf or HI people should be encouraged by free coursework provision, it isn't a hobby, but a need. People who suffer poor communications can't learn properly, can't earn a decent wage, can't advance in skills to work, and depend on expensive support options, so it makes financial sense to support it.

OK the late deafened need to get their communication act together a LOT earlier, but we have to deal with the reality most don't, it's been discussed on many sites, the driving desire to retain any sort of hearing, outweighs any potential benefits to learn skills if and when it fails..

There seems some sort of snobbery in being a good lip-reader as averse to a good signer too, and then signers clouding the issue with tales of culture/lifestyle whatever.... backed up by a segregated lifestyle as justification, it is time they realised they are dealing with highly vulnerable and needy people. Make no mistake it is in hearing interests to keep the deaf where they are and themselves as dictating communication usage with the deaf, we seem to have no input at all as to what is going on, and the dire and abysmal 'awareness' in the UK is a disgrace, and blatant and self-indulgent exhibition, of inflated deaf and hearing ego's.

Prime the deaf child for the deaf world, and then leave them there ? maintain the dependency, encourage those with a cultural persuasion to stay where they are 'like with like', as if real choice was an option ! Suggestions ALL deafened and hard of hearing should be entitled to FREE support via communication taught, and an enhanced system for acquired/late deafened to be set up, has fallen literally on the deaf ears of the biased people who run the support and what is laughing called 'awareness' areas/systems, each protecting their own little corner, and gravy train.

Colleges and Universities join in with buzz courses on culture which even the deaf have reservations about, it's all money and about money, and using deaf studies as an freebie to boost points for the real courses they are doing.. No wonder we read total rubbish from students, who just log in to deaf sites trying to filch awareness from there without ever stepping outside their comfort zone. Culture collects kudos, hearing loss doesn't. We need the balance re-addressed.

The politics is an end in itself to the nitty gritty of understanding. What it all boils down to, is we can't hear, and need communication alternatives, that's all it is, there is no mystery or history involved.. Deaf and HI people are most concerned with understanding others, that is the priority. You have to ask why there was never any drive to unify communication approaches... Here I suspect deaf culture and HI/Hearing cultures are drawing their own lines in the sand, mostly to grass root detriment.

Even total Communication doesn't see to know what it is.... Yes we are all different in need and ability, but there is no system extant to recognise that.

Both lip-reading and sign language students, require hearing class-wise, which negates any potential of them, for DEAF people, the ones that need the skills.