Monday, 9 September 2019

My Cultural ID.

Hi my name is MaKenna Dearborn and I wrote a lot of stuff down for this assignment because 00:05 I just wanted to get all my ideas and things out there before I recorded myself.

00:10 So here is goes when I was younger I didn't really know a lot about my background I think

00:17 it was a very typical suburban middle class.

00:20 I went to private school and my parents raised me as Christian but then in middle school

00:26 they switched to catholicism and I remember being very confused and uh around that time

00:33 I went with my maternal grandmother and aunt back to Minnesota to uhmm for a family reunion

00:43 and this was back in 2007 and I remember I was able to see original farm house that my

00:52 ancestor built by hand when they moved here from Czech but I don't know much else about

01:00 uhhmm where they were there because I know some other family went back there to find

01:10 more information but because of World War II a lot of things were destroyed in the war. 01:18 In eighth grade I did an assignment on my paternal great grandfather who served during

01:25 World War II and his family was from Minsk on the border of Russia.

01:30 He..

01:32 I remember my grandmother telling me that she had a hard time communicating with her

01:37 grandparents because they had really strong accents and spoke yiddish.

01:41 So I thought that was really interesting and she also talked to me about the other side 01:45 of the family and I think thats the side I connect with most because I've been out there

01:50 to see my disant family and I've tried to adapt to a lot of the cultural aspects from Sweden

01:59 Ive participated in a lot of events.

02:01 Ive done Midsummer down at Balboa Park because its like a big celebration

02:05 Celebrate the longest day of the year in Sweden. That's always a fun event to go to and then

02:12 we tried One year I tired to do a Christmas Eve smorgasborg which is basically like a buffet but with

02:18 traditional swedish dishes like Swedish meatballs, lingonberry jam, and ham.

02:26 Very traditional Swedish stuff but I guess I would consider it close to an American Buffet

02:33 When I was around 20 I got the 23 and me kid that showed me my ancestry composition so

02:39 that was something I am really interested in.

02:41 I'm just really a big background but my largest percentage is Scandinavian and that was about 02:52 22%.

02:53 So I really tried to dwelve or dive in and understand my background and try to learn

03:03 more things culturally about the different places and where my ancestors were from

03:10 Recently I've been more and more going to Deaf events.

03:14 I don't want to go so far that I'm involved in Deaf cultural but Id say I have a big appreciation

03:21 for it and its something that I value.

03:24 I have a good amount of Deaf friends and because of the career I chose in teaching ASL and

03:29 especially with hearing students there's a lot of misconceptions and a lot of uneducated

03:35 responses so I feel like its important to educate them and when I'm out

03:41 with my Deaf friends I never feel like I should have to advocate for them or help them but

03:46 if they ask me of course I will.

03:48 I think its umm its such a touchy subject because I know that Deaf people value their

03:57 community and because I'm a hearing person its not something you can just jump into and

04:02 something you have to earn that right to be connected to the community and uhhmm

04:12 I think its important so I guess thing I can do to describe my cultural background

04:20 as whole is that its very diverse very mixed so I think that's primarily every American.

04:30 Everyone comes from different places and different background, values.

04:36 Many thanks for listening, I mean watching!

GDA; 1919 to 2019

HoH: I want/do not want a label.

Image result for no labels!Some feedback to ATR's recent blog on labels via social media (Not edited by ATR). 

#1  The awareness gig has failed so it's a free for all, they are all making it up to suit, we don't know really who it suits but there are people making money out of awareness, even if their message is biased and whatever. Logic suggests we ignore them till they go away, but the problem is they approach support systems with their messages and then we find issues getting what we need. Given everyone has own idea of what they need is it even remotely possible awareness can work at all?

#2 I'm totally deaf I was born without eardrums many a time I have been called deaf and dumb that's not true I can talk took me ten years to learn I can lip read I can sign and I can shout back at people I went on to have a successful career as a lawyer.

#3  So the 'Deaf' community 'Need' the label? It's a community essential? I can understand frustration deaf people can frustrate me too, their activists, in particular, I can do without. I don't understand a desire to be someone else. I'm deaf too but I don't see a need to capitalise it, Is there some advantage in doing that? It seems to create more divisions than it unites people.

#4  The trouble is there is so many misconceptions about deafness are you deaf and dumb no it's our hearing that's the problem not out voice I was once asked if I could hear myself think I don't need any labels I have enough confidence in myself to rise above the comments I'm deaf not stupid

#5  As a deaf person (both ears), and with a mother and grandmother deaf too, none of whom ever signed or went to a deaf school/club or socialised with them, I speak well I get called a fraud BY deaf people so awareness like charity needs to start closer to home I feel. I have confidence too so I don't need a label or to align with others which would label me by default. Confidence or lack of it is our real issue, hearing loss isn't. The deaf community thing looks more like 'safety in numbers' to me, permanently on the defensive when there is no reason for that other than compromise is not an option for them. 

#6  Yep, but I don't think it helps them to break out of their situation much it offers a cosy alternative to it. Perhaps they should abandon a desire to be included though because by default they prefer not to be, they are happy where they are apparently. You can't be in it AND out of it, inclusion doesn't work like that.

#7  People can be quick to judge I found when I was in court other lawyers would turn their backs so I couldn't see what they were saying I tended to be ignored in chambers and the dining room one day I got pissed off stood on a chair and yelled quiet then I told them how ignorant and stuck up they were I really laid into them I told them I was deaf, not stupid I got applause and more respect from them after that

#8  I like to say I'm hearing impaired because when you say you're HOH, people just think you're being facetious

# 9  And the deaf will oppose you on that too, it's all pointless labelling.

#10  It is just a preference for how one wants to define themselves. The issue is.... people may define themselves one way. But if another tries to define a person, that is where conflict is created. 

#11   am starting to feel we all have different paths in our hearing loss world(s). And destiny was the guiding light to which path we were designed to follow. 

# 12  Right or wrong, I can't hide the fact I have a hearing loss, that I am hearing impaired, floating in a hearing world that does not always allow me entrance. And I float in around a deaf world who does not always allow me entrance.

# 13  I really could care less what they think... I say what I say based on trial and error and knowing what gets the point across the easiest. The deaf have their own struggles that we do not understand and we have our own that they do not.

#14  The issue is they are better at making that point and we, do not seem bothered about making ours much. The fact remains at least in the UK, there has not been a viable or national HoH campaign run in the last 15 years that has highlighted our need, or succeded, our primary success was getting subtitles to the TV, we did that the deaf didn't. This has given others a 'free run' at the systems to make their point, our apathy is/was our undoing. 

#15   Perhaps we only have ourselves to blame if nothing gets done? I'm not a fan either of using others tactics blaming everyone hearing either, it's all so childish and petty, but essentially doesn't advance anything. 

#16  We appear to be talking our own individual needs to the extent we don't unite for the common good. I've read nothing here that suggests we are all united, lots of posts (Mine included!), supporting the individual approach to need too. I'm a victim as are others here of feeling only I know best what I need. In retrospect, this is ignoring others. 

#17   I just felt supporting issues that don't apply to me pretty pointless too, especially as other areas were intent on doing their own thing anyway. 

#18   The collective approach the 'deaf' use is their strength, has anyone seen a few 100 HoH on the march anywhere? If we really do want to move forward and get rid of all these silly labels and ID angst-ridden things that pander to our insecurity then we have to act collectively too, I'd stick my neck out and suggest the Hard of Hearing non-signing areas are never going to do that :( 

#19   Observing USA areas it's a sham there too, few HoH issues get aired without an ASL using person doing it. Like the UK the 'Deaf & HoH' remit is there to suggest inclusivity or to get funding, but its inclusivity on paper only, we are both areas, going our own way. 

#20  This suggests 'every man/woman for themselves' rather than a unity of people with hearing loss, but where areas go for the same access then we see concern raised and the twain not meeting.  There is a mutual 'standoff' between Deaf and Hard of Hearing when we need to confront and clear the air, where that was tried the gloves really came off and hostility was very apparent, I don't know what the answer is, perhaps ATR owner has a point?  Just get rid of the fake remit of the 'Deaf & HoH' and put clear water between the two primary areas of hearing loss?

#21  That site suggests we discriminate against the Deaf community!!

#22   I don't think so, as I read it, ATR just wants to clarify need and the owner sees dividing the two areas so everyone knows who needs what, (And who that need applies to), as the only logical way of doing it, given they/we won't unite.  It's maybe a cry in the dark really, there is no sign (No pun intended), HoH want unity nor the Deaf... who can make their point without anyone else.